How to Build a Business and a Life You Love

Christy Whitman Interview with Marie Forleo

Wouldn’t it be great to have the same degree of fun – and to experience as much flow, interest and inspiration – in your career that you do in your favorite and most satisfying aspects of life?  And if this is not currently your experience, have you ever stopped to contemplate why?

Most people believe that working is inherently less fun than playing because of the nature of the tasks involved. We tell ourselves that the pressures of making deadlines or meeting other people’s expectations robs us of the possibility for enjoyment.  In reality, we are the only ones who can control whether we find joy in our work or use it as a source of suffering.

Think about an aspect of your life that you truly, passionately love.  Maybe it’s spending time with family or friends, playing or listening to music, dancing, gardening, or any other pursuit that makes you happy.  At face value, it’s easy to conclude that your enjoyment is in response the activity itself.  “I love the feeling of having my hands in the soil,” you might say.  Or, “Music is food for my soul.”  Both of these things might be true, but I want to assert that your joy comes from a much deeper source.  

When you are experiencing a moment of joy, it is because you have invested all of you in that moment.  All of your attention is gently focused toward whatever activity you are engaged in, and as a result, the combined energy of your thoughts, feelings, ideas and impulses are being allowed to flow unobstructed.  The free-flowing of your own internal energy is what feels good.  That is the true source of your joy.  And in contrast, whenever you are engaged in an activity that you’re enjoying, it is not the fault of the task at hand, but an indication that you are splitting your own energy.  Your hands are going through the motions, even as your mind is railing against it or your emotions are yearning to be someplace else. 

Creating a career and a life that you love is simply a by-product of bringing all of YOU to whatever you are engaged in at any moment – be it work or play.  Rather than compartmentalizing your work life from your personal life and deciding that one is “serious” and the other is fun, why not see each as a continuous flow of your life experience?   How amazing would it be to take your whole self – meaning, every aspect of you, fully aligned – everywhere you go… including your office?

Building a business and a life that you love is the topic that life coach, motivational speaker, and author Marie Forleo chatted about in a recent episode of the Quantum Success Show.